Finding the ground of your being
In some way we are all seeking for stability. A sense of groundedness, hereness and ok-ness. The search for these things is often sought in external circumstances or situations. Once we have the job, the money, the house, the relationships, the health, the sense of personal value and contribution, then we think we will feel secure. But what happens when all of that crumbles? Who and what are we then? What stability exists when there are no external structures in place to make us feel safe? It is truly only when all forms destabilize that the real opportunity to know ourselves arrives.
The root of stability is never found in the forms, it is instead found in your pure essential nature, devoid of all appearances. What this means is that not until all forms dissolve and all constructs fall away in your awareness can you see the essence of what remains, which is pure being, which is the real you. The only true stability is here. It is the pure awareness that never changes, never comes and goes, is always here, always present. There are no illusions of stability here. There is only the knowingness of the ground of being or the ground of your self. This is the pure state of stability itself.
The path to stability is not by striving, proving and achieving, but instead is through self-acceptance. Forces of instability which seem to throw you out of your center of stability only throw you out of your delusion of center. They show you where you are still giving your power away and looking “out there" to feel ok. Ultimately you cannot leave yourself, you can only be shown where you still believe that you can leave yourself.
To fully accept yourself and discover the path to true stability is not as easy as it sounds. It means that you must face and feel all the places that bring up a sense of instability for you. Feeling instability equates to feeling those things we fear. Primarily what we fear boils down to the perception of loss of love, belonging or some other form of death (i.e. something going away). It is through avoiding the feeling of the loss, separation, and alienation that we perpetuate the loss, separation and alienation and thus the experience of fear. The magic, the miracle, comes through us allowing the feeling of loss, as through that we make contact with ourselves again and with that sense of stability which never truly left.
Forces of Instability
Fuel to know yourself
Due to the fact that we have been largely misinformed or have not realized our true essential nature we have come to adopt less than complete ideas about ourselves. These ideas are distortions of the truth, not the pure truth itself. Most people are living with a fragmented perspective of what/who they are without the full realization that they are living in this way. It is frequently not until something disruptive comes into our lives and shakes us up a bit that we realize that there is possibly something more than what we’ve known.
If we are too comfortable in our illusions of stability then we don’t have the opportunity to grow and realize more of ourselves and unearth the distortions of truth that we have come to believe about ourselves. Instead we will just simply live the status quo hoping that not too much changes and fighting tooth and nail if it does because we don’t want our delusion of stability to end. However I promise you that you don’t let the shake up occur you will never taste true stability or know yourself because you will be too locked into your stories of what you need to be safe.
Transformation is always about instability. People often say that they want to transform as if its some popular spiritual thing to do, but people almost never say they want to completely deconstruct all their false structures of safety and support and then actually do it. People don’t do it because they get caught in the fear of loss of something and rather than move into it, they move away from it.
Instability is necessary, but it is only necessary because we don’t know the truth of ourselves yet. When instability arises see it as the opportunity that it is. The opportunity to taste, know and eventually rest into a true stability that remains despite all of the coming or going of forms. Do your best not to judge the shake up as wrong or bad, as if you do you will suffer or project your suffering onto others, rather than transform. Recognize that instability tends to come in waves. Some waves are more potent than other waves. See the waves as gifts that you can ride into the truth of you.
Transformation is simply as process to know ourselves as the true stability that we are. A stability that is made of love. A love that is complete, inclusive and which from all coming and goings arise. Full self-acceptance is your free ticket into knowing this stability. An acceptance that ends all fear and which absolutely no wave can shake. Allow the instability, move into the instability, accept the fear that arises as you move deeper into the wave and you will alas be reunited with the entire ocean.
Amanda Hessel, Aligned as Love