Tiny Little Peace Disrupters
TINY LITTLE PEACE DISRUPTERS
Good days and bad days
Most all of us desire a state of inner peace. That sustainably stable center of being, that remains undisturbed regardless of situation or circumstance. I really don’t know anyone who isn’t in someway looking or desiring this for themselves. Often times we taste peace. For example we might wake up in the morning after a great night’s sleep feeling rested and fantastic. Then we start our day and tiny little peace disrupters attempt to find their way inside of our experiences. Maybe our partner is grouchy and that affects our state of joy a little bit. Perhaps we don’t have the food in our refrigerator that we want to eat for breakfast because our kids ate it last night. Possibly you receive a phone call from your doctor telling you they didn’t like the look of some your routine blood work that you did last week for your annual check up. Then you get in your car, start it up and it’s making some strange noise. You arrive at your scheduled lunch meeting only to find out the person you are meeting is running 40 minutes late. You get the idea. The list could go on and on and on endlessly forever.
It’s really no wonder that we feel stressed out most of time and not really as present and centered as we’d like to be. It seems to be that there are a thousand tiny, little (and sometimes big) peace disrupters that happen in a give day. You can find them in nearly every moment it seems. Little ways that life does not appear to run smoothly, where things are less desirable than we want them to be, and where life just doesn’t feel like we want it to feel. We worry about the outcome of all the things and if everything will turn out alright. We dread the hassle of taking care of things that we aren’t sometimes even sure how to take care of. We live in this state of a sort of powerlessness to life and its occurrences, and we hold our breath while we are in the uncertainty of it all. I’d say that this is a pretty regular experience of life for most.
Days that we call “good days” are typically days where we either perceive that less peace disrupters are present or where they are present but don’t seem to effect us. In these situations it is often that something that we perceive as really good happened in a day so we are less easily affected by the other going ons of life. It can also be that we have more distance from the occurrences of life on a given day (i.e. less attachment to the outcome of things and more acceptance of what is) so the little things seem to grab us less. Some things are easier for us to accept, others not as much. The more we resistance we create, the less resourced and energized we are and the more those tiny little peace disrupters run the show.
STABLE INNER CENTER
Playing the game of challenge
All of those tiny little peace disrupters are really just little challengers in the game of life. They are opportunities for you to learn greater and greater inner stability. One of the things I hear most frequently from people whom I work with is that they want to have stability in feeling good, energized, joyful and in their center or truth. They want to less taken by the circumstance of life and be in more choice about what and how they are feeling on a day to day basis. So often people don’t feel in choice about how they are feeling and that is actually what feels bad, that is not being in choice and not necessarily the bad feeling itself.
One of the fundamental perspectives to take on this whole matter is that everything that happens is happening for you not to you. If you make that shift in perspective than you can easily see that all of those tiny little peace disrupters (and even the big ones) are simply coming into your experience to help you learn how to have a stable inner center. See we ask to have a stable inner center and yet when we are given a thousand opportunities a day to practice it we fail to see that we are being given exactly that which we need to learn exactly that which we desire to learn. It’s tricky because when we see through the perspective that life is happening to us we feel powerless to circumstance and feel that we have no choice in the matter of how we feel about what is happening to us. However if we pick up and put on a different pair of glasses for the day, glasses that see that every single occurrence inside of our experience is happening for us then we are much more readily available to learn from life rather than feel victim to it. We can also more clearly see things as opportunities to learn and not as permanent, never ending states of being of which we will never escape.
Most people don’t realize how powerful they are. In fact most don’t realize that they have any power at all. Some level of denial, confusion and lack of awareness seems to be present for most people when it comes to knowing themselves as the all powerful creators that they are. Yet the evidence is everywhere. How you perceive everything that you perceive is evidence of your power. How you perceive is how you will experience life. What is more powerful than that? How you perceive is how you create and thus how you will experience life. At any moment your free will to perceive is intact. Free will the first expression of creation. It is what you are. Free will itself. You are free to perceive however it is you would like to, and you will thus create an experience of life based on your perception. Perception is creation. If you see things as bad or wrong, you will experience bad, wrong or the threat of bad/wrong. If you see things as good, you will experience good and that life is working for you.
It is really that simple folks. You might like to insist that you don’t have any power, and that you can’t change how you perceive, but you’re the only one that can. No one can give you a stable inner center. Tools, techniques and programs can guide you towards it, but ultimately you must learn it through the opportunity of tiny little (and sometimes big) peace disrupters. The gift of them is the re-remembering your power and your never ending free will to perceive/create as you’d like.
Dr. Amanda Love