Pain of not Embracing Perfection
PAIN OF NOT EMBRACING PERFECTION
Disagreeing with the universe
In the spiritual growth community we are all so busy working on ourselves. Attempting to do it right by clearing our trauma, healing our wounds and purifying ourselves to ever more refined versions of ourselves. While we are engaged in this journey towards our ultimate remembering and purest expression we often lose sight of the fact that we have never left the innate perfection that we are. Though at times we seem to have disconnected or forgotten this, the truth remains that we could never not be what we are even if it has been temporarily placed out of our sight.
To say or view from the perspective of imperfection creates all the suffering that we could ever imagine, and which we do imagine every single day. Imperfection implies that the intelligence that organizes this universe, including your body, mind and every single little detail of creation, somewhere made a mistake. This is the birthplace of the view of wrongness, error and separation. For certain aspects of creation to be included and others not is an illusion that we perpetuate over and over again which lives inside the idea of imperfection.
Imperfection is simply an idea, a view, a judgment, a perspective. There is no actual truth to it. It’s preference and bias. What one person sees as perfection another sees as imperfect. This occurs infinitely inside of this idea of imperfection. See healing happens the moment that we remember that we are perfect and therefore so is everything else. We may not like what shows up on the screen of life, but that doesn’t alter its perfection. When we get this completely through and through the healing journey ceases because it’s no longer relevant. What is true is remembered and evident is the nature of what is.
This begs the question as to why we hold tight to the perspective of imperfection even when we “get” spiritually that we are perfect. Why don’t we accept our total, complete and absolute perfection right now in this moment and every moment that will ever follow? What exactly are we waiting for? This is a really good question to ask yourself. What stands in the way of you embracing every single aspect of yourself and this entire universe as innately perfect? Do you still think some things are wrong? If so what are those things, and what will it take shift your perspective of them? Whatever it is that you don’t include will stay un-included until you directly and consciously include it. How much longer do you want to wait? How much more suffering do you want to endure? When is it enough? Only you can determine and decide this for yourself.
SELF & OTHER FORGIVENESS
Courage and humility
If there is a tool that bridges this sometimes seemingly gaping gap between perfection and imperfection it is self and other forgiveness. Forgiveness “corrects” the perspective, removes the hate, and ends the insistence on rightness and wrongness. It softens the heart and drops the veil of separation that never was. It ends the roles of victim and victor. It doesn’t negate or say what happened did or didn’t happen, but it clears the slate. No karmic charge, no battle to fight, no war to be won, nothing to prove or justify. Inner & outer peace, harmony and resolution are the effects of forgiveness.
Forgiveness requires courage. Why? Because to open our heart towards what feels hurtful often seems like the wrong direction to our minds. Our minds want to protect us from all pain and that is why we build walls of separation inside of our experiences. It takes bravery to move towards rather than away from these experiences. To let down our walls and allow ourselves to feel instead of continuing to choose the path of self-protection. This must be a very deliberate, conscious choosing on our part. This will not just automatically happen because for most people the default mode is self-defense rather than self-love or other-love. The seeming paradox is that love it the ultimate protector, and not the mind with its defenses which are wired to keep you separate from the rest of creation. To love one’s self (or love other) is to bravely walk into the fire of our own mind and refuse to not allow light of our awareness to shine. To see what we are trying to hold separate, and to feel how much more pain holding separate causes us rather then feeling the hurt that we are resisting. To then choose to feel the pain so that the energy can move through our system and the charge can find its resolution.
Forgiveness requires humility. Why? Because we must end our insistence on rightness/wrongness in order to forgive. To arrive at the place of “I don’t know better than that which organizes this entire universe” is incredibly humbling to the personality we identify ourselves as. People avoid and deny this level of humility at all costs because they want to be right and feel justified in their rightness. What happened happened. What I am I am. No right and no wrong. End of story. End of all stories. The mind hates this. Some people feel this is a permission slip for people to do or get away with “bad” things or to ignore changes that need to be made. I am suggesting neither, but instead to see what is possible through the power of forgiveness. To see what naturally and organically organizes itself into different configurations without force, effort, punishment, or shaming when the true essence of what is is seen, reflected, and given. I dare you.
The power of the heart is stronger, more real and more palpable then any limiting perspective, including that of imperfection. Choosing forgiveness opens the door directly into the heart. Heart leads, mind follows. This is what most all hunger for even if they can’t fully articulate it in this way yet. The only thing standing in the way is your insistence on the idea of imperfection. That’s it. Imperfection really is just a thought and not an actual thing. I know this may be hard for your mind to believe, but its worth investigating and changing this belief for yourself. Your joy and freedom from suffering awaits on the other side of it.
Dr. Amanda Love