No Where to Now Here
NO WHERE TO NOW HERE
Stop trying to go somewhere
t’s curious where we are all trying to get. Seems like there is always somewhere to go, some other destination to arrive at and some other experience to be gotten to already. We live in this forward trajectory of next and next and next, while never realizing that we are living our former next now and that the nexts will keep coming indefinitely. To pause our focus on what’s next and be where we are now seems trivial, mundane or as if its lacking something that we must get.
One must wonder what fuels this quest to get something or somewhere other than where we are. If we really just cut to the chase here, all trying to get somewhere other than where we are (which is impossible by the way) is rooted, fueled and motivated by a perception we have of lack. We believe that something is not in our experience that should be or that we want to be in our experience. So we attempt to fulfill that seeming void that we perceive. That lack could be of anything. Perhaps it’s lack of happiness, lack of feeling good, lack of freedom, lack of movement, lack of connection, lack of resources, lack of money, lack of love, lack of purpose and on and on.
I promise you that however tempting and true it may seem that what you are looking for exists somewhere else, it does not. There is nothing that exists “over there” that doesn’t also exist here now. If we take it a step further there isn’t even really an “over there” or anything other than now. Try to find proof that something outside of now exists. To find proof you would somehow have to prove that you could be other than existence, essentially that you could not exist. Try to not exist, to not be, to not is, to not be here and let me know how it goes and if you find success.
There is only now happening and now is all that ever happens. To live this is to be in eternal peace. This is the end of resistance and of all getting, striving, attaining, moving towards, and progress. To not fight with where you are, which is now and to not fight what is, relaxes everything inside of you and therefore your experience relaxes as well. When now is recognized and received you work inside the moment, with creation, with the unfolding, rather than as a separate object that is trying to get somewhere else or to the next thing. Experiences and appearances continue to move and change, but there is no more trying to get things to change. You are, all is, and this moment which is all moments, can be nothing other than fully perfect and complete. No lack. Nothing missing. No where to go or get. All remembers and sees what it is and that nothing ever left itself.
LETTING EVERYTHING GO
Release all wanting of things to be different
Let everything go. Let everything be. Want nothing from anything. This is the way to know freedom. This is the way to be at peace forever. This is the way to have everything you truly desire, which is everlasting presence. To want something or someone to show up differently, act differently, be differently than they are, is to attempt to control life or control others and not allow them to be themselves. When we hope, pray, or plea that things will be different than they are, we lose our center and act in ways that are not in alignment or integrity with who we are in order to get what we think we want. We then doubt, question, over-analyze, lash out, withdraw, react and endlessly stir in the thoughts of our mind. The result of this is that we feel stuck, trapped, lost, powerless and at the mercy of others or to our experience of life.
Our attachments to our ideas of what we want and the forms that those ideas take, steer the boat of our life if we let them. In fact most people spend their life trying to get all of their desires to manifest so that they can give themselves the permission slip to relax and feel good. Our desires are the guiding light, the spark that fuels the choices we make and the directions we choose, however when we attach to the outcome of our desires in order to get a perceived need or want met that we feel is missing, we have a recipe for suffering.
In letting everything go we are open to receive everything as it is. We allow our desires to take on whatever forms and shapes that they want to take on rather than the ones we think they should take on. In this way we let the mystery of what will be reveal itself to us here now rather than fixating on how it will turn out, which puts us in the “next” mode. This frees us from having to control life or others. For most of us controlling isn’t our most natural state so it feels bad to us yet we continue to do it because we perceive lack. Letting everything go means letting go of our control, letting go of our insistences, letting go of our rights, wrongs and and injustices, and letting go of our ideas and perceptions of lack.
To let go is to live love. It is to be love, to be your natural state, to receive everything as it is. It is to be here now, to be present and experience the bliss that is presence. It doesn’t mean that you will never have painful sensations, intense emotions, unpleasant thoughts or challenges. It doesn’t mean that you will never experience discomfort or dis-ease. It doesn’t mean that all of your dreams and desires will be made manifest. It only means that you will be present, you will be awake, you will be here. You will stop trying to get anywhere and you will be where you are. You will learn-share everything you are meant to learn-share. You will stop missing out on your life because you realize you can’t miss out. You will stop resisting, pushing away or forcing anything. Instead you let whatever comes to you come.
The thing about now here is that it never leaves. There is no situation, circumstance, event, activity, or experience that is separate from here now. This means that presence is all pervasive. There is no anything that needs to push you into next mode. Full permission to be here, just as it is and find peace inside of now.
Dr. Amanda Love