Loving Where You Are
LOVING WHERE YOU ARE
Ending the chase of what’s next
It is no secret that we live in a near constant state of trying to get somewhere. We make goals, create plans, and think about what is next. We measure our progress from start to finish and course correct along the way. Without some degree of forward momentum, and the feeling that we are creating or accomplishing what we set out to do, we often feel stuck or stagnant. This itch to be other than where we are creates a gap inside of our experience. That gap is a self-created illusion where we believe that there is somewhere to get and somewhere we think we’d rather be. When we place ourselves inside that gap we miss what’s here as we are ambitiously move towards what is next.
Rarely do we rest into and love exactly where we are. There are many reasons for this. Many people believe that what is here is not enough so they constantly strive for more. The moment they arrive anywhere is the same moment they jump back into the gap between here and what’s next. That sense of not enoughness can be personal and express as always attempting to make themselves better (self-improvement can fall into this category), or it can be projected onto external circumstances by always finding a new thing or cause that needs to be improved. This is not to say that things, causes or personality traits can’t be shifted to express in more coherent ways, they absolutely can, but when it comes from a place of scarcity in where you are rather than abundance in where you are, its rooted rejection rather than acceptance. This leads to a constant chase in attempting to get, rather than devoted service to what you love.
Other reasons people don’t rest and love exactly where they are is because they don’t trust that what’s here is good and right. They have a belief that something is wrong or bad with what is present and that they must somehow change it in order for it to be good and right. They bypass the goodness and rightness that’s here for their belief that it lives somewhere else. In my opinion this is the true spiritual bypass. People also tend to believe that the conditions of their life are dependent on them being able to fully express and be themselves, but this is backwards. You fully expressing and being yourself creates the conditions of your life. Since people believe the other way around they will go about trying to make the conditions of their life match their mind’s idea of what it thinks it needs in order to be rested and in love here. This chasing of conditions is tempting because it seems to go somewhere and things appear to be happening in a forward direction, however it leads only to continuing your postponement of loving where you are. Some people postpone in such a way for their entire life.
MAKING CHANGE IN LOVE
How you source
We tend to believe that we can’t make change in love. Historically we have needed to be fed up, dissatisfied and frustrated with what is in order to have the fuel to create change in ourselves or the world. Can you even fathom what it would be like to love where you are and also create movement or change? I believe this is how it is done in most portions of the universe, but here on planet Earth we haven’t quite learned this yet. We still hold strong to states of pain, suffering and dissatisfaction being our primary fuel for change. Be clear that there is absolutely nothing wrong with this, in fact it is currently required, I’m simply inviting that there is another way.
In this moment entertain, feel, channel or drop into a state of full love and acceptance. Do so right now in this very moment. As you do notice how much energy becomes available to you. Notice how you naturally overflow and emanate lightness and joy. Feel the levity and also the fullness that’s here. This is always here, its simply that you haven’t practiced paying attention in this way. Instead you’ve practiced paying attention to what doesn’t work or feel good and for lack of a better term, lower states of energy. You’ve focused on what has to be done, what needs fixed or improved, and how something is better somewhere other than here now. You’ve created distance, but understand that this distance isn’t real. Its a concept, a thought in your mind, nothing else. It has no separate existence outside of your thought of it. Just as easily as you create that thought of something will be better in the distance, you can create a thought of amazingness of what’s here right now.
Just through the simplicity of shifting your focus you dramatically shift your energy state. The more energy you feel the more easily movement and change naturally flow through you. You don’t need to dislike or feel frustrated about what is in order to find a source of energy to create change. You can both love what is now and then love what is next when it becomes now. You don’t have to choose to love one moment over the next moment, you get to love both, and the changes that need to occur will. The only real requirements are to watch where your focus goes and be in charge of it. Deliberately choose the focus of your desire and know that it will determine the energy level that is available to you and how change will move through you.
To love what is, is to dissolve your agenda for what must be. In giving your life over to your mission, to your purpose, to why you are, over and over and over again, you will always find yourself perfectly positioned and therefore life will also appear perfectly positioned to you. You can’t find anything out there because there is no out there. Distance is made up by you. Your sense of location is unreal. You can never actually move, you can only be. Choose your being wisely through how you focus. Know that change will always happen, but how it happens is up to you. How you source your change makes all the difference. Change sourced through love breeds more love. Its silly to think other and yet many do. Where you start you will end. Where you create from will determine the creation.
Dr. Amanda Love