Giving to life
In spiritual circles we often talk about freedom and what it is to live freely, but we don’t actually live freely. The number one reason why most people don’t live freely is due to their attachments, which are rooted in lack and scarcity beliefs. Those beliefs are centered around the themes of not having enough, being enough, and not being safe or supported. There is fear of what will be lost and what you might not have that you think that you want or need. The focus of all scarcity beliefs is self-survival and self-preservation.
When our self-preservation mode is in the driver’s seat of our life it is impossible to live freely. We are hooked into getting and making sure everything we need is gotten. We want to hold onto what we have and we tend to not like change or disruption to what we know, as that instability activates feelings of uncertainty. We therefore prioritize sameness and the illusion of consistency over novelty and the ever changing moment. Our appearance of life is that each day seems almost the same as the previous one with slight nuances and we paste the same identity onto ourselves and everyone we know. In these ways the world seems relatively safe, secure, unchanging and kind of mundane or flat. There isn’t a lot of new energy that is allowed for inside of the world view of self-preservation therefore the exchange of energy is unidirectional, meaning it ends with you.
Living freely is about open energy exchange with life. It does not attempt to keep things the same as it realizes that that is impossible. It is not attached to the comings and goings of relationships, projects, family, friends, business ideas, vacations, cars, houses and other objects and such. This does not mean that it does not care or invest itself fully into what it is doing or into things, it does, but it does so empty of any attempt to derive safety, security, validation and ok-ness from them. Imagine doing only because of what you can give or bring to something and completely devoid of what your doing may bring you. This is a taste of what living freely really is. It is pure committed devotion to what feels important to you from the energy or perspective of giving to it. To give in this way is to simultaneously receive the world of your giving as you become your giving. This is creation mastery.
You might ponder what in this life you feel is important enough to devote your entire existence to. Perhaps it’s love, connection, magic, unity, truth, bliss, generosity, kindness, etc. This is a worthwhile self-exploration at any stage of life. Most people follow the unspoken script of life rather than realize their creator self potential. Living a life devoted to creating something that feels of prime importance or deeply exciting for you is key to living freely. While total devotion and freedom might seem like a paradox for some who may think that commitment and freedom are opposites, devotion is a clear path to liberation. It immediately cuts out anything that is not in alignment with your truest intention for existing and in that way you are free to be, and share your being, uninhibited by anything.
Devotion is by its very nature unattached. If there is attachment then it is not devotion, but rather attempting to get something. Explore where you feel resistance to give. Where you don’t want to share yourself, be yourself, or give to life. Another way to explore is to notice where you feel closed off, separate from, distant or not a part of. Also notice situations or aspects or your life that feel depleting. These are all cues into where you are doing out of perceived necessity or “have to” rather than in joyous being and giving. This will also show you your attachments and where you are compromising in your life out of fear of loss or belief in scarcity.
When you give to life you free it and by default you free yourself. When you are free your heart is naturally open and it radiates. The radiation of the heart is giving to life and it feels natural and organic. It is not hard to radiate. It is not hard to give, particularly when you are not attached to your giving. The hardness only comes when want something specific to happen through our giving. This distorts it and makes it feel tough. Living a life in pure devotion to giving while also giving away our desired outcome of our giving is what living free is all about.
This is the path of self-purification rather than self-preservation. Through purification you realize that all needs are met and all wants that are true wants have come into manifestation through your being and radiating. Your journey becomes increasingly singularly focused and this makes it easy. Again the toughness only comes into account through our attachments. Self-purification is not like turning on light switch. It does take time, dedication, persistence, and energy in order to purify. It is an ongoing journey and it can be fun even when it may feel challenging to let go attachments to things or ways of being. In fact learning ways to make purifying more and more fun will accelerate and increase your capacity to give, radiate and be of service. Loving and accepting yourself at every moment of the journey is the journey.
Dr. Amanda Love