Healing from Wholeness
HEALING FROM WHOLENESS
What is, is
Wholeness is the natural state that exists in each and every moment, yet most all of us are trying to get to it in some way or another. We conceptually know the complete perfection that is and yet we don’t live from this knowing. Rather we live from the belief that there is somewhere to get and when we arrive there then completion will be achieved. Most don’t really know where this place of completion is, but have many ideas that it is in either the attainment or absence of something. When attainment or absence of the “something” is achieved they think they’ve arrived. Yet soon the realization of fleeting temporariness of their illusion of completion is revealed and they find themselves back on the search for completion again.
Some people may initially think that if wholeness, completion and perfection already is, then what is there to live for or do. If you aren’t striving to get somewhere than what? The thing is that most people ask this question from the place of scarcity or from the perspective of lack of wholeness. No one asks that question from wholeness because it would be clear to them how to move, where to act, where to be still and how to focus their energy and awareness. The doubt that they feel about life would be alleviated because they would already know all is well no matter what is done or not done.
How do we play the game of life knowing that it doesn’t actually matter what happens? How are we passionate and committed to play and yet simultaneously detached from any occurrence occurring? How do we heal coming from or knowing that we are already whole? The definition of healing is remembering or realizing our/the already whole state. Despite people often believing that healing has something to do with absence or presence of certain sensations or feelings, it does not. This is again rooted in the idea that there is somewhere else to get or arrive that would indicate completion. The first thing to really understand is that no matter what the sensation or feeling is that is currently present in your experience, nothing is wrong or un-whole. Nothing is out of place. Everything is perfectly aligned including the sensation/feeling experience. You liking or not liking, preferring or not preferring your experience is not an indication of lack of wholeness. Yet this is how we base our judgments. If we like our experience we say all is well and everything is perfect. If we don’t like our experience we say something is off, we are unwell or things are out of place. From our view we decide what is, yet what is doesn’t really care about our view. What is, is, regardless of how we view it. Is-ness is inherently neutral and complete.
LEARNING TO PLAY THE GAME
Oh Santa Claus
When you already know wholeness is what is, yet you live in a world environment that still largely perceives that things are wrong, then you must learn to play the game of “wrongness”. I call it playing a game because once you fully know/believe that nothing can be other than perfect, you see that all you can really do is play the game, because it is no longer real to you that wrong could be. Let me use believing in Santa Claus when you are kid as an analogy. As long as your parents played along with the story when you were a kid, then you really believed in Santa Claus. You put out cookies, you waited for Santa to come and then you opened all the presents he left in the morning. Nothing seemed unreal about it when you were a kid, that is until you were told the truth. Once you were told the truth than you couldn’t go back to believing in Santa Claus. You could only play the game that Santa exists. You might dress up for the younger kids, help them make cookies and clear the chimney for Santa to come, but to you its just a fun game and there is nothing serious about it. There are still things to do, actions to take and ways to play, but you know it’s just for play and that it doesn’t really matter what does or doesn’t get done. All is well.
This is truly what its like to stop believing in un-healedness or wrongness. What remains is simply the truth of perfection. You can’t go back to seeing things as wrong, you can only play the game for others that still believe in it. You take actions, you do things, you change and move things around, yet you know that it truly doesn’t matter because wholeness already is, no matter what you do or don’t do. You may find that you enjoy certain activities or doing particular stuff so you choose those activities as your play. Those activities may be doctor, lawyer, coach, therapist, healer, business person, CEO, mom, etc. This is akin to choosing the activities of dressing up as Santa, versus baking the cookies or going to the store to get milk. Pick what you prefer or enjoy more.
Similar to the way we wait for kids to grow up a little bit before telling them the truth about Santa, in a way there is also a waiting for people to grow up beyond the belief of imperfection. There is a time on everyone’s timeline where they will outgrow it. They can only be told when they are ready to hear it. If you tell them too soon they might not believe you. Attempting to get a child’s thoughts, feelings or sensations to change about Santa before they are ready is arduous and nonsensical. That’s why we play the game instead. Its fun, there’s joy, and even though it’s ultimately untrue there is still play and activity involved. As with the belief in wrongness or lack of wholeness, you can attempt to change yours or another’s sensations, feelings and thoughts around it, but if you/they aren’t ready to hear that all is whole and complete, then play the game of imperfection. Make sure to make it as fun and as ridiculously silly as possible. Choose to take on doing activities you like doing. Be free from knowing anything needs to happen or not happen, because after all, all is well, perfect and complete now. There is no future and no destination where this will be more or less true. Its true now. This is healing from wholeness, from the destination not towards a destination. Its playing the game of healing while knowing everything is already whole.
Dr. Amanda Love