Tides of transformation
Most of us fear destruction. Yet destruction is an inevitable aspect of growth. Things can not stay the same and simultaneously look or be different. When we allow our fear of deconstruction (i.e. what we think we will lose) to reign we feel stuck, frustrated and powerless. These feelings are simply the postponement of change that must occur. The only thing that shifts frustration is forward movement. The tendency for most is instead to move backwards into the same habituated thinking patterns because they are known rather than to push forward into the unknown. Growth does not occur in the known.
What it boils down to is that people want to feel different or have their life be different yet expect that they can remain the same. They project that they want the situation or circumstance to change, but deny their participation in that change. They fail to see that in every moment life (including their body) responds to them, not to some mysterious, outside, unknown force. They avoid and deny their power rather than own their power. The building up of frustration and stuckness rather than the alleviation of it, is what provides the energy for forward momentum. Due to the fact that we avoid feeling uncomfortable we don’t allow the build up of tension that is required to make change. Instead we find the most accessible ways in which we can to alleviate it. Frequently that involves dropping into a lower state of awareness or consciousness where we feel like things are continuing to happen to us, that we are powerless, and that someone or something must fix us rather than us recognizing ourselves in the equation.
If rather than running from our uncomfortable sensations and situations we learn to move towards them, not in a way to fix or get rid of them as if they are some separate object from us, but instead to make contact with ourselves through them, we will be able to harness the energy of stuckness to move forward. This will begin to expand our perspective of our current situation or circumstance. The moment that we move towards rather than away from, is the moment that we stretch ourselves beyond our known. This stretching expands our view of what we can see and allows us to revisit that which previously felt separate to us with new eyes. It allows us to see our patterns and how we are creating the circumstances and situations we’re experiencing, including what’s happening within our body, so that we can make necessary changes that are required. It is at this point that the inevitable destruction that was always eminent is now so clearly in the forefront of our awareness. It is now no longer a choice that we can grapple with, but instead a must that we must do.
Recognizing yourself in the equation
Ultimately destruction is about the dissolution or breakdown of aspects of our self that no longer serve our highest good and don’t allow for optimal function of our bodies and lives. These parts of us, or more accurately these patterns which we have identified as who we are, are often mysterious to us in the early part of transformation. We can’t yet see that we are the ones creating the circumstances and situations because we are so fused as being the pattern or part. However when transformation moves to mid phase we begin to gain insight into what is occurring and more importantly our participation with it. At transformation’s end phase we clearly see how we have been in charge all along and that it’s never been about the situation or circumstance, ever.
I invite you to see from the perspective that stuckness and frustration is a gift. It is a gift from you, to you, that is showing you that some aspect of your consciousness must be made more aware. It is the way in which you are teaching yourself to wake up. Rather than keeping the perspective that tension is a problem or that the circumstance is a problem, see it as an opportunity for growth. Accept that destruction and change is a part of growth. As you move into the frustration and wake up to seeing your contribution to what is occurring, you will be required to change. Recognize your own resistance to this. Recognize your desire to maintain sameness or perceived safety and stability rather than instability and change. Recognize that things will come and go as required whether you like it or not. Know that some of those things you will want to hold onto for dear life and yet they remain incompatible with who it is you are waking up to be. To continue to hold onto those things and attempt to control external circumstances will keep you in a state of suffering and stuckness and suffering and stuckness and suffering and stuckness until the point where you have finally had enough.
Some of us will tolerate suffering and stuckness for such a long time because we are so afraid of change, growth and what we think we will lose along the way, but change and growth is the nature of this universe. To remain the same or in resistance/fear to change when change is eminent, is nothing short of a miserable life experience as the soul cannot express through you in the ways that it desires due to your persistent attempts to try to control it.
Nothing remains the same. Nothing. You can hold onto absolutely nothing. The deeper that you can accept this the more easily you will allow the process of destruction and transformation to run its course in whatever ways are needed. This will accelerate your journey as a soul who’s sole function is to expand and express. Ultimately you are the destroyer/changer. Destruction and change do not happen to you, you are not a victim of them, instead you initiate them because you realize that you must. This is the realization and actualization of your power.
Amanda Hessel, Aligned as Love