Resistance, wrongness & righteousness
What is forgiveness? What would it be like to live and be forgiveness? In a nutshell forgiveness is the dissolution of charge. It is resolution. It is the allowing of what is to be as it is. It’s the opening of one’s self, or one’s system, to that which it had previously withdrawn or removed itself from. It is the end of insistence on your rightness and the washing away of your biases. It is the return to non-separation. It is instantaneous peace, freedom and bliss.
Forgiveness is the gateway into everything that we desire. Forgiveness of self, other and all. Ultimately to forgive, no matter what it seems like we are forgiving, is to come out of an erroneous perspective that we’ve been holding onto and into the truth. That is why we always feel clearer and better after we forgive, because we are seeing from a perspective that is in greater alignment with the truth of what is. The truth always feels better to us.
Why do we not instantly move from suffering, charge or being stuck in a perspective into forgiveness? Really we could at any moment choose this instantaneous transformation yet most of us don’t because we are too busy continuing our fight (internal or external) with what is. Resistance is a tricky thing and hard for most of us to see in ourselves. Sometimes we can feel the effects of our inner resistance as tension or pain in the body, but often we don’t make the connection that the stress, tension or pain we feel is part of our own inner resistance to something that is. We attempt to address these effects that we feel in our body (i.e. tension or pain), but without going to the core and looking at what it is that we are in resistance to in the first place. This is an endless chase that resolves nothing and provides only temporary relief.
We also hate feeling wrong so we will fight to the end to prove, justify, and validate why something or someone else’s behavior, action or perspective is wrong and we are right. When we go to the depths of wrongness it often brings a sense of inner shame and the pushing away of ourselves from ourselves. It is the experience of self-resistance rather than self-love. The proving or justifying that we do in order to not feel shame or self-rejection may be expressed subtly inside our own thoughts and mind and or it may be expressed more externally through the pushing away of certain people or things in our life. The more righteous and insistent we are on our viewpoint the more we will suffer and the longer we delay the peace and freedom we desire. The insistence of the rightness of our perspective and the wrongness of another’s is the prime reason why we don’t forgive.
Free will to forgive
When we live in a state of resistance or non-forgiveness we are withdrawing our love from certain aspects of creation. There is no greater pain than to withdraw our love and put up energetic walls between self and other. This is to live disconnected and experience separation, suffering, helplessness and powerlessness. The only way to experience and know your power and live in connection is to be willing to put down your guards, dissolve your illusionary walls of self-protection and be rested open in a state of forgiveness of all. True power comes from the heart and from not needing to push away any part of your experience. When you can fully receive all of your experience you have won your internal battle and have mastered yourself. This is what it is to be forgiveness.
It is important to remember that you can choose this at any moment and in any experience. Your free will to forgive can never be compromised by anyone other than yourself. To choose and live moment to moment forgiveness opens up a portal of sorts in your beingness to infinite energy and intelligence. You become agenda-less and therefore have access to the infinite wisdom and love that you are. Your very essence serves you and all of creation.
Some people may feel scared to put down their walls and drop their guards. They may not yet know the power of love or be rested in the support that comes with it. They may fear getting hurt, feeling pain, or being vulnerable or susceptible to attack- whether that attack is from others or self. This is an indication of trying to control or manage life (rather than be present with and open to it) by attempting to push away or prevent certain feelings, sensations or experiences. This is part of the inner resistance I was mentioning above and it can be tricky to see in ourselves because it is so engrained in the way that we operate. In fact we often confuse our walls, guards and protection mechanisms as ourselves, as who we think we are, when really they are simply the aspects that interfere with or cloud our ability to truly see and know ourselves.
Dismantling the resistance that we have built inside of our own selves opens us into love, which is our essence and true nature. When we don’t yet know love we feel disconnected from our power because love is the ultimate power and the ultimate protector. Inherent in love is everything we could ever want or need. Love illuminates, invites, includes and is fiercely coherent in its capacity to organize everything into it. Love leaves nothing out.
Forgiveness is our be-line into ourselves. It is the fastest way, the accelerated path, to knowing ourselves. Know Thyself is one of, if not the prime tenet of all wisdom traditions. Forgiveness is its key. Use it if you so desire to move as quickly as possible into the light or your own consciousness. God is none other than the clearest, most perfected perspective of yourself. Clear the canvas of your mind and come to know yourself in what remains.
Amanda Hessel, Aligned as Love