Seeing the surface
Everything that we see, feel, touch or somehow sense is an appearance. The world of appearances can be equated with the physical world that we see including our physical bodies. Most of our daily attention and focus is on these appearances. Appearances come and go. That is their nature. None of them are permanent, hence the seeming impermanence to this thing that we call life. Despite this quality of impermanence and constant mutability most have come to believe appearances to be the most real, physical, and solid thing that exists. It is with this seeming realness or physicality that we’ve created our baseline for what we think is, what we focus on and what we believe to be important and valuable.
With so much of our attention focused on appearances very little attention is brought to what is underneath or deep to appearances. When our sense of stability and knowingness of what is, is fused with the appearance of things then when appearances change (which they always do) so does our sense of knowing what is. If people are completely fused with appearances then when appearances change they will call it a crisis and the typical response they feel/experience is fear. If people have some recognition beyond appearances then they will sense the subtle undertones of what is going on past what simply appears to be going on and will see/feel opportunity rather than fear. If people are completely unfused with appearances then when appearances changes they will be completely undisturbed because their sense of knowing what is has not been affected in any way.
It is good to take an inventory to see how fused you are with appearances because when you are fused with appearances you are unable to see what is actually there. One way to easily assess this for yourself is to see where you feel an emotional charge about something that is occurring. Emotional charge is an indication that there is some fusion with the appearance of what is. That emotional charge and be positive or negative, meaning it can be either excitement, eagerness or anger, frustration towards something that is occurring. Either way that charge will focus your awareness on the appearance of the experience that is occurring rather than the essence or unchangeable nature that is deep to all appearances and experiences.
Diving beneath the surface
Neutrality and unchangeability
Your capacity to be unaffected, undisturbed or unshaken by what is occurring is a measure of how you are able to fully focus your awareness on the unchangeable aspect of your nature. It is your ability to focus your attention in such a way that you go deep to appearance and feel the stability of yourself that never changes, never moves, and is always present. When you are rested here, in the core of your being, every single thing in your appearance based world (including people, relationships, financial resources, jobs, state of your physical body or health, self-image, reputation, etc.) can all fall away or change dramatically and yet you remain in a rested state of never ending well-being.
This well-being is neutral, meaning without charge, yet the experience of it is safe, well, blissful, and abundant no matter what appearances are or aren’t in your experience.
This neutrality to those that have not experienced the well-being that comes along with it may seem boring or dull. Some people will prefer the drama and chemical responses to charge over neutrality as the derive a sense of identity within experiencing life in that way. To not be swayed and influenced by the ups and downs (typically what we call stress) of the appearance based world may feel like an “un-human” life, yet what are we if not evolving into the next version of new species on this planet that includes and transcends being human? What does it take to bring that consciousness here? It requires us to perceive and be anew. To emit the frequency of well-being rather than be pulled out of our center each time we experience a new set of appearances.
There are times when you being rested as the stable source that you are, that you must pick a bias. Where you seemingly pick a side, preference or position on something in the world of appearances. You may find yourself needing to express an underrepresented perspective to a group of people or find it of service to take a particular set of opinions and behaviors. People who have not yet realized themselves will often confuse you as the ideas you are representing because again people tend to focus on appearances rather than essence. Other people’s perception of you is simply them judging their own projection of you until they reach the point in their capacity to focus their awareness beyond appearances and know their own stability. When they reach that point than all they will see is your essence and everything that they previously painted on top of you simply vanishes as a focal point. It is for those that have found their own stability that the taking on of biases and preferences is simply in service to helping others realize that same source inside themselves.
Being unswayed and stably present is one of, if not the biggest gift, that you can be and share with others that don’t know it yet. Being that source of brilliantly bright stable safety allows everyone and everything around you to relax and rest. You are not their source of stability, but rather you mirror their own stability to them so that they can experience it.
Amanda Hessel, Aligned as Love